Like all new mothers, I spent a lot of time in my first pregnancy anticipating what life would be like after having my baby. I mostly envisioned the sweet times, but I also tried to imagine what would be most difficult: sleep deprivation, crying jags, the loss of spontaneity in my day to day. And while it turned out that all of those things were certainly hard, there was something looming even larger that was by far the most challenging part of becoming a mother: the isolation that came with it.